Negative stress vs positive thoughts…which one?


Well, countdown is here…for the next ten days we will be busier than ever with the last round of packing, cleaning apartment, saying good byes, contacting utilities and other important people plus school.  Yep, while moving, i’ll be facing the challenge of having internet and still do my schoolwork…God give me strength.

Yeah, things are getting a little stressful especially as hubby faced a minor medical issue this morning.  All us well now but I pray the stress is not getting to him…it will be a big change for him (and me).

Some of the stresses included the following:

1) moving to a new location far far from family (never done that) though we’ll have know some people who are close by.

2) Going to a new church – hope we find a  good bible believing one who is welcoming and will encourage me as I work towards going into ministry.

3) Needing to find a job – to cover some of the expenses even if it’s part time

4) Taking care of Dene while at work and on my own…will be a big change without family nearby.

5) Getting to know new people – i’m shy and tend to avoid some social situations because the shyness can be overwhelming.

6) the move itself especially with our elderly parents driving, loading, and unloading…

Even with these stresses, we are relying on God to help us and looking at the blessings, which include the following:

1) Quiet, peacefulness

2) It’s in Eastern Washington – my most favorite place to visit

3) my dad has property over there that I can finally explore – just need to watch out for rattlesnakes (stay tuned for a blog on this)

4) Montana and Idaho are nearby – more fun places to explore!

5) My grandparents’ old farm turned to county wildlife park is closer – another relaxing and quite place.

6) I’m close to the Columbia river – my most favorite river in the whole wide world…it’s calming and relaxing.  I grew up near it and found it peaceful and beautiful!

7) Traffic is awesome there – rarely any backups!

8) It snows – yes I love snow!

9) blessings of our parents who are helping with the move

10) and the list goes on….

What is the point of these lists?  I was reminded as I read a textbook that negative thoughts should be replaced with positive ones.  The positive will help with conflict and you will be able to see things in a different perspective.

After all, according to Philippians 4:8 (KJV):

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Therefore, in conclusion, look for the positives and replace the negatives.  When you do this, your stress will be relieved and you will have a more positive outlook on life.

As to the answer to the title, I am choosing positive thoughts!

So, what negative thoughts are crowding your mind?  Can you think of anything positive to replace the negative?  Feel free to comment.

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Who am I? The Positive and Negative of Who I am


Several years ago, I earned a degree in Human Development, which is a study of how humans develop along with some counseling theories and psychology.  During the course of one class, we were asked to interview people and collect “Who am I” answers from them.

This exercise is a way of thinking of who you really are as a person.

You can create two lists – one with positive stuff and another with negative stuff.

Last night I created my own list and this is what it looks like on the positive side:

  1. I am a Wife who has a wonderful husband
  2. I am a daughter who struggles in her relationship with her parents
  3. I am a Christian who loves the Lord with all her heart
  4. I am a cat lover since I was a wee baby
  5. I am a student pursuing a master degree
  6. I am a mother (1 child)
  7. I am a worshiper of the highest King
  8. I am a princess of that highest King
  9. I am an aunt (11 x) and a great aunt (3 times) with one niece in heaven
  10. I am an analytical person who enjoys working with data
  11. I am creative with a gift in creative communication
  12. I am merciful at times and need to be more merciful at other times
  13. I am beautiful …inside
  14. I am faithful and loyal to those around me
  15. I am a writer of novels, blogs, and student papers
  16. I am a reader of Christian fiction and textbooks
  17. I am an artist who enjoys painting, drawing, and photography
  18. I am filled with hope that all things will work out in the end and there is a light at the end of the tunnel
  19. I am an awesome person who enjoys life
  20. I am a person with a heart for serving the community

These are the not so positive stuff about me:

  1. I tend to tell white lies at times and I’m ashamed of them – people want honesty and a real person.  I need the character change to be an effective evangelist.
  2. I have a fiery tongue that needs to be controlled.  After all, James 3:9 (MSG) reads “With our tongues we bless God our Father; with the same tongues we curse the very men and women he made in his image.”  Therefore, we need to control what we say to people.
  3. I need to be more grateful especially to all that God has done for me.  According to the book Choosing Gratitude by Nancy Leigh DeMoss (2009, 29) “gratitude is a lifestyle, a hard-fought, grace-infused, biblical lifestyle.”

Though there are a few other negative things in my life, I need to confront these negative issues and not let them rule my life.  I need to be on fire for God and try to flee from temptation and negative thoughts the best I can.

Finally, how can I do flee from and resist temptation especially since I can’t do it on my own?  I need to call upon the name of the Lord and allowing God to work through me as I continue to go to Him for the strength to fight this negativity.   I also need to repent of my sins or negativity and trying my best not to continue to be a negative person.

So, what does your “Who am I” list(s) reveal?