My postings may become more sporadic until at least the holidays since we were faced with another medical crisis this last weekend.
For most of last week, my husband has not been feeling all the well and then by Friday, the tip of his finger was quite black and he was getting very sick. Yet, he made me go to a doctor’s appointment before taking him to the emergency room. Fortunately, for me, all tests came back positive for nothing wrong except diabetes so i’ll have to be monitored for that! Yikes! I do not want to start poking my fingers – I dread needles.
At the hospital, they discovered he had an infection and even gangrene from a dead finger so the treatment was an amputation, which happened on Saturday. He is doing better today and will be going into rehab for some time so Thanksgiving will be a lonely affair this year…yet, I will spend some time there in rehab with him.
This latest journey has taught me a few things and I have the following tips for patients, spouses, loved ones, and so on:
1) treat medical staff with respect – they are overworked and they do the dirtiest of jobs for a patient.
2) though the staff may be a bit overworked, speak up as an advocate for your loved one and if able to, do the little things to assist the staff like help with feeding the patient
3) If coming out of town to visit patient and you plan to stay at their home, give the spouse who spends quite a bit of time at the hospital, down time when they get home. They may not want to chat but rest and unwind while taking care of things like homework and other household responsibilities.
4) If you are visiting, please respect the loved one’s wishes to not clean their house. Things were hectic and the house was on the verge of being cleaned up. Some people may take this as the house was not clean enough or you should have done a better job at it. If they say no on something, do not push the matter. Above all – do not go through personal things like medical records, etc.
5) If you know of someone who is going through a rough time, like a loved one in the hospital, make sure they are being cheered up and taken care of.
6) If you know of a spouse and/or family members who do not have a loved one at home during a holiday, they will need to be cheered up too. It’s a stressful time.
7) Get people to pray alongside you
8) Pack your meals and plan parking expenses – visiting at a hospital can add up. Maybe offer to bring a meal to the visiting person.
9) Remember to smile even as things get tough like cleaning up vomit and other messes
10) remember the pets -they need attention and they do miss their human mom or dad
11) Above all, pray and read God’s words
Finally, in conclusion, I salute caretakers, nursing staff, and doctors who work such long hours and deal with the messes to give love, mercy, compassion, and kindness to a spouse, child, other family members, and/or patients.
What are your thoughts? Do you have anymore tips to help handle stress during a long illness, accident or other similar journeys?